I thought I'd join up here, not sure if this group's very active anymore, but there's always the chance it'll pick up :)
I have a 3 year old who has a speech delay (she was 3 in March) I was quite excited when I came upon this community as it'd be nice to talk to others who's children are late talkers. She's receiving speech therapy and has been for a few weeks now, prior to that she was in a toddler talk program which I think helped a bit. She's come a long way since last September when we first started getting help. Last September, she had a verbal vocabulary of perhaps 3 or 4 words at most: momma, dadda, (variations of those) bubba and hi. She was originally diagnosed with a severe speech delay as they put it. It was clear she understood everything we said, but she just didn't talk.
She automatically used her hands, signing what she wanted or needed in her own way, making up signs for certain words, so I began teaching her some basic sign language just to lower her frustration levels when we didn't understand what she wanted. She knows quite a few signs now, unfortunately I'm the only one that really knows most of them.
It's been said upon several hearing tests that she seems to have fluid in her ears. Each time prior they just said it'll clear up on it's own, that she perhaps was just getting over a cold. She's only had 1 ear infection in her entire life that we know about at least. If her ears have ever been sore, she never lets us know. I made an appt with my family Dr to see about her ears, but I can't get in any sooner than a few weeks from now! She's seeing a Paediatrician at the center she goes to for her speech therapy next week. Hopefully he'll have something to tell us.
But it's so frustrating on me as a mom going through all this. I often doubt and wonder to myself, wondering what I did wrong to cause her to be so severely delayed. Mother's Guilt. I'll wonder if I'm doing enough to help her. I know it's really nothing I did, but still as a mom, the doubts are always there. She also still sleeps with her pacifier (I know bad bad bad) but I just can't seem to take it away from her and I'm so afraid to even mention her still having it to her speech therapist for fear they'll blame it. I can't take it away from her cold turkey and just let her scream at night, I have 1 year old twins who are sleeping at that time too. We've tried numerous times to gently get rid of it, I even once went so far as to cut the tip off it, showed her it was broken and I felt like the worlds worst mommy when I saw her reaction. It was like her best friend had died. She wanted Daddy to fix it. So I ended up snatching up one of the babies soother's that resembled it in the end and told her we fixed it. I attempted to try sewing it into one of her bears today, so she'd at least still have it, and perhaps have a Binky Bear in it's place, but she was horrified at that suggestion. We even tried the Giving it to Santa at Xmas, but come bedtime, she wanted it back.
So anyways before this gets any longer lol I've lost count of what she says, but now alot of her words are hard to understand as she seems to find it hard to pronounce alot of sounds. She's pretty much talking in 2-4 word sentences now, so I feel that's an improvement. But often when she gets really excited and begins to babble fast, it sounds as if she's talking a foreign language.
She is improving week by week, but it concerns me so much why she doesn't seem to be able to talk at her level yet. It's nice to know I'm not alone :)